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“The time suck that is the narcissistic relationship”
“46.878 Aufrufe – 06.09.2021”
“I must say everyone is really stressed these days, more than i’ve ever seen and lots of
people opine about what are our greatestsources of stress in the world right now:
loneliness, managing work-life balance, working too much, money, the cost of living,
health issues…no, i’m going to argue this and i’m willing to take the bet
that the stressor that is taking the greatest toll on the collective health and mental
health of the people in the world is toxic people. I found myself recently talking with
someone who is sort of more of like an independent contractor, freelance worker, a
professional person and this person is often juggling multiple gigs or jobs or
projects that at the time the person had about five projects, they were balancing at the
time and they kind of require equal amounts of attention and they commented
that one of the five projects involved a deeply difficult, entitled, grandiose, egocentric person, the person had to be handled and managed all of the time, it required long circuitous emails, just so this person felt heard and then making sure that they kept
telling the egocentric person they were great, just so they could keep the project
alive and because this difficult person actually wasn’t all that
great or wasn’t all that smart, everyone as always having to find creative ways
of steering their better ideas into a sensible place and not an idiotic
place without that person feeling criticized…”
“How toxicly positive people enable narcissism
31.778 Aufrufe – 07.09.2021”
“let’s talk about this kind of enabler the toxicly positive one…who don’t allow space for
normal what we call dysphoric or negative emotions like anxiety or
sadness or worry and many a self-improvement cult has
arisen out of people being told their dysphoric or sad emotions reflected some
sort of damage or limitation within them and then they would have those emotions
be judged harshly by the other people in the so-called cult, now as a general rule
it is useful, emotions are useful, because there are messengers right and in most cases, maybe
not all, but in most cases emotions pass we have them and they work them their way through, but we need to heed our emotions as the messengers and signals that they are
and what we need to do is learn appropriate ways of being with our
emotions and learning to respond in the face of them, now the toxic positivity folks are the
ones who shame people for not walking around eternally optimistic and they’re
fully convinced of their power, all of the time, they will often invoke and weaponize all
kinds of new age woo woo to do this sort of shaming of negative emotions and will
tell you none of that negative talk come on now shift your mindset, you have the
power of your mind, set a happy intention, you are the master of your mind
and for people who are facing oppressive and dominant and abusive behavior, not
just from a partner or a family member, but from the world at large, you can set
all of the damned intentions and mind power you want, you can’t change the world
and you shouldn’t blame yourself for that, because that’s what ends up happening in
this toxicly positive space, that somehow your mind is so magical that it could
change everything, including the other toxic people in it, so in the toxic positivity world these are folks who don’t like hearing about narcissism, it’s just too negative for them and it’s interesting because a fair number of these toxically positive folks are
narcissistic themselves, narcissism feels like it’s too defeatist a conversation for them, it feels too negative and this idea that something can’t change, well, that’s just way too
much for them to them you’ve got your mind power that should be able to change
anything, right.”
“In the toxic positivity world everything can be changed they think and
if you believe it can’t be changed, well, that’s your fault,
interestingly the toxic positivity folks may also not be that
bothered, as it were, at the kinds of narcissistic traits and qualities we see
in people and instead they may frame narcissistic people as people who are
just tough leaders or who think out of the box or who are just able to make direct
decisions and that if we are having trouble in a relationship with them then
it’s our fault .. we see it in a certain subset of motivational speakers…”
“the toxic positivity folks are the individual enablers the toxic positivity
movement means that they’re in our entire systems that enable narcissism.
I have had numerous people tell me that i have had numerous people tell me that
they have had everyone from so-called spiritual teachers to so-called healers
to coaches to yoga teachers to energy healers to therapists tell them that
instead of calling the relationship toxic or your partner narcissistic or
toxic, look within you, because that is within your control
and ask yourself why you need to label it this way and ask yourself what you
are responsible for in this other person’s behavior.
…come on now, that’s not nice, people aren’t toxic
and that your negative feelings can be changed by shifting your mindset, listen,
you cannot look within yourself until you are educated
about what is also it’s outside of you, so you can make an informed decision,
that’s what the positivity folks leave that rather important bit out…so, when a person’s reality is being denied or they are not being shown basic human empathy or they are being invalidated exactly how are they supposed to take responsibility and control
it’s like blaming someone’s face for being in the way of another person’s fist…”
“I am pessimistic by nature and I think I was born that way and it’s in my dna, so
I own it, it’s not my natural groove I gotta tell you sometimes I really love
the reassurance that comes from positive people.”
“Lessons from people who are “immune” to narcissists”
Infinity Expression 2021: They are so fascinated from those…after they have shot all their gun powder in the bombing phase… Yes, we are full Zenist, Kundalini-Awakened. Very well put into words. Kundalini makes you completely Zen and this Super-Transcendent -Interdimensional High-Empath- state fascinates the High Level Trait Narc, for a while at least.
“some of these so called narcissist immune people i guess can,
sometimes be a little enably a little gaslighty and sort of benign
narcissisty, they may minimize the struggles you are
having with the narcissist and they may also not call the
narcissist out, so the narcissist will stay up to their
usual tricks, it just doesn’t bother the person who’s immune to it,
but this isn’t always the case the fact is they’re not always enabling they’re
not always a little narcissistic, they’re just not bothered by the
narcissists, so what is their secret because once you know it
you’re gonna know it so their secret is so simple…
they don’t take the narcissist bs personally it’s
literally that simple they don’t make it personal
i have worked with clients who had very toxic parents and difficult
histories they’ve worked with toxic colleagues,
they’ve had toxic partners and they were fine,
they were not confused they were not full of self-doubt,
they weren’t ruminating they just didn’t take it personally…they are rare they’re very rare people like this but they tend to have a few things i
don’t know for lack of a better way to put it they have a few things going for
them.. first of all people who are immune to narcissists tend to be confident and
self-assured in their own abilities, they’re clear on what they know and
they’re clear on what they don’t know and addition and in addition to that,
they do tend to do things that they love whether it’s in their work or in their
hobbies or both they’re just there’s a self-assuredness,
number two that they don’t take the narcissist behavior personally…yep he’s an absolute jerk, she is a complete and utter pain in the
neck that’s on them though it has nothing to do with me so even when the
narcissist is saying mean, gaslighty, invalidating, outlandish things they just tend to
shrug and they just don’t make it their problem the third thing we see in people who are immune to narcissists is that they’re really able to hold on well to their
reality, so even when they are gaslighted again they shrug and will say
alright that’s your version i got a version and i guess we’re just going to have to
agree to disagree, the fourth thing we see in people who
are sort of immune to the narcissist is that they’re able to set
and maintain boundaries, probably because they are relatively
immune to the narcissist’s bad behavior, they know when to quit.”
“NARCS BECOME YOUR WEAKNESS, AND YOU BECOME THEIR STRENGTH”
“28.8.2021”
“Happiness is not what they do.”
Divine Feminine: so true..they use you to recharge like a phone to battery charger then take your energy to manifest new beginnings in their life..
InfinityExpression2021: Crazy stuff… The Vampires are Black Holes of Cold Breeders, they suck their environment dry.
Nisha Kutty
vor 1 Tag (bearbeitet)
Please do not get fooled by this person ‘Hario Ovadtop’Do not book any kind of coaching session with him. He is so unprofessional and abusive. Total waste of money. All he knows is how to talk a good game to lure vulnerable women and get them to pay him.
InfinityExpression2021: They eventually do it willfully… still entertaining.
Sisters Sister: vor 13 Stunden:
Let me tell you this: MYNARC IS NOW MY DAM SLAVE! THANKS TO You HARIO I AM FREE and IN CONTROL.
chidi Uchechukwu: vor 23 Stunden: Hario is well experienced on the subject of narcissism. He is a blessing.
Nisha Kutty: vor 22 Stunden: @chidi Uchechukwu because he is 100% one himself.
“but she has a good idea, guys instead of saying I’m cutting you totally off,
just talk less, talk less, you know what I’m saying you ain’t ready
to totally cold cold turkey cut them off no contact talk less when they’re talking, give them one word answers for everything.”
“They’re noticing every time, you don’t, you’re not as attentive as you were
before they notice, oh they notice…everybody ain’t on that level yet..she was able to isolate herself, she said I’m gonna isolate myself..”
Glinda Bouldin: 24 years wasted but better than 25.
Katsura: Narcs don’t believe in monogamy!! A married narc is an oxymoron..
lisa brown: I think our whole society is getting narcissistic.
Sun Cat: I set a boundary that made my life instantly better and the narc hated it.
JoJo Mama: Narcs have zero respect for the institution of marriage mine married again without bothering to divorce me.
Lemon Aid: I discarded mine, but his disorder is so prevalent, I could tell right away there was something wrong. A few weeks. Call me Super-Empath.
J Rc: Narc still hasn’t divorced his ex wife after 8 years separated! Goes on dating sites claiming to be “legally separated” – no you are LEGALLY MARRIED.
Lou C313: Traumabond is so real. And so sad! Hardest thing to break. But, NC is key!
Heather M.: SHOULD HAVE BELIEVED HIM WHEN HE SAID “I HAVE THESE DEMONS INSIDE ME” “I DESTROY EVERYTHING I TOUCH”..
Sun Cat: Separation anxiety was the first month without the narc. But it got better.
Sun Cat: The narc squelches your dreams. You can begin them again after they leave. It’s a true blessing.
Heyoka de la Familia: …study the liar.
Conita Johnson: Why are they everywhere?
lisa brown: Pro and con list.
“Like it’s so easy to get into this, so hard to get out of it..”
“Narcs become your weakness, because you’re exchanging energy,
Narcs become your weakness you’re giving a Narc your strength, they’re giving you their
weakness, so you’re weak for them but they’re strong against you,
they’re strong against you… because you’re still in that low level energy, that low frequency and when I mean a low level energy and frequency,
your thinking, your thinking is low level. I’m not saying that to insult anybody…your
low-level thoughts…as soon as you start to elevate you’re going to elevate yourself to
another class of people that are thinking on that other level
people on a higher level are not thinking like the people on a low
frequency, they don’t think the same..”
“it it it definitely enlightens me to
the level that a narc thinks on and it’s all low
level, all low level, it’s all low level,
it’s all low frequency
you know and it’s a game, it’s all game
it’s all game but it’s manipulation, they’re going to manipulate you
to a place where you not only do you feel sorry for them,
you feel helpless without them,
they want you to i talk to people daily
that literally take care of the
narcissist and somehow they think that
they think that the narcissist
that they need to knock and it’s not the
other way around…”
“what’s that the armbar.. I love ufc fighting,
I love it, I watch it all the time,
it gets a little gory though when they
get somebody like an arm bar,
if any of y’all know what that is oh man
that is brutal, they, that person will tap
out when they get in that arm bar,
but this is the thing guys,
in order to get that person in an arm
bar,
they don’t just walk over to them and
grab their arm in their inner arm bar, no,
it’s a bunch of calculated small moves
that put you in the arm bar, now that arm
bar will break your arm and it breaks the elbow..”
“like every time you talk to a Narc you feel this urgency to tell them
everything, every part of everything you’ve ever done
and they share nothing,
when you talk to them you can’t even get
them to answer the question that you
asked, they shared nothing and you
hey hey hon i’m about to go to the store
and on my way to the store i’m gonna
stop past the corner..”
“you can’t walk in a room, you can’t walk in a room with a Narc
and think that i’m gonna just go in here and and
breathe the air and enjoy myself,
you take a narc out somewhere with you
they gonna get into something
it’s like having a badass kid they’re
gonna get into something..they act like fool.”
“just because the narcissist begs and please
that doesn’t mean that they love you,
just because the narc begs and pleads
it does not mean that they love you,
their words and actions must line up,
people, they must line up,
your words and your actions they have to,
they have to line up.”
“just because you can take all this
craziness you can handle all the
punishment the torture the disrespect
the foul language just because you can take it
just because you can take it
it doesn’t mean that you have to and it
doesn’t mean you should and you were put here to put up with
nobody’s mess, just because you can take their mess
doesn’t mean that your life was designed and created to put up with their mess
that’s what i want y’all to take with y’all tonight, just because you can handle this
heartbreak, this horrible person, this monster,
it doesn’t mean that you were put here for that
nor does it mean that you have to take it,
because you do not that is not what this is about that is
not what life is about guys, life is about being happy,
life is about sharing with someone,
caring for someone and that person giving you that same caring, that love, that reciprocity that we all so desire..”
“who said you’re alone when you’re with the narc,
because they’re never there,
they’re always somewhere with another
supply when you find your worth
leaving is is so easy
so fulfilling
and she’s right y’all
when you’re with a narcissist
you’re always alone they’re always with
another supply even when they’re
physically with you they are always with
someone else
because they’re thinking about other
people while you’re with them they’re wanting to wishing they will
whip the other person they’re sending
them text messages
inboxes
telling you
telling the new supply the other
supplies that they deal with damn i wish
i was with you right now
i wish i could be with you that’s what
they’re doing while you’re with them
damn baby i can’t wait to
see you again touch you again
they saying some stuff to the other
people that you would lose it if you saw it.. narc’s friends
are betting for how long y’all gonna make it,
because they know what’s going on behind.”
“Why do you always need to repeat yourself to narcissists?”
“239.211 Aufrufe – 06.05.2020”
“They are very impulsive, they’re very inattentive and so in that way they’re
not paying attention to anything why because they really have a lot of
contempt for information unless it’s directly relevant to them A and B if it
fits their world view, so narcissists do something very interesting, they don’t
pay attention to what you’re saying or even to information when they don’t like
it, so in other words if they’re being told a bit of bad news or they’re being
told something that’s going to inconvenience them or they’re being told
something that’s not as fancy grandiose and you know Zaza zoo as they want it to
be there just to now that’s why they’re,
so terrible at listening to the mundane stuff of life like hey could you pick up
some milk today…”
“They’re not interested, they don’t care, this is very very problematic, because
whether this is worrk relationship and intimate relationship or a family relationship, it means things get missed and don’t get done and these could be important things, an important
bill that had a deadline that had to go out in the mail, a medication that may
have needed to be picked up, a contract that needed to get signed and off to the
client, if the narcissist doesn’t care or they devalue you, they consistently
devalue your words and a lot of us kind of get into the kind of delusional sense
that maybe if I keep repeating myself enough they’ll get it, oh no, no matter
how many times you repeat it, if they don’t value you and they don’t value the
information, they ain’t gonna get it and when you start reacting to that they’re
going to Gaslight you, so it feels like very much like a dead end.”
“Cult-Like Narcissistic Systems
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We commonly associate cults with religious systems of dominance and control. But Dr. Les Carter describes how many other social structures can share the same traits of authoritarianism and exclusiveness. He identifies the primary qualities of cult-like systems and addresses ways to break free. Being fit into a narcissist’s tightly defined social structure is no way for anyone to live.”
#narcissist #narcissism #npd
<“Social Media – A Narcissistic Machine..”
“DON’T ARGUE With A Narcissist But DO THIS Instead To OUTSMART THEM | Lisa Romano”
“135.796 Aufrufe – 14.10.2020”
“but studies are proving that narcissism is on the rise. America itself is becoming very superficial
and there is a rise in reality tv show, there’s a rise in social media, um people are more than ever putting themselves out
there, there’s a lot of exhibitionism, a lot of superficiality, everybody wants to look perfect which is all feeding into
narcissism and there is definitely a cultural shift and if you haven’t read the book the narcissism epidemic, it’s quite
fascinating, because it talks about narcissism being on the rise and why and so we know that narcissism
is on the rise right there have been a number of studies done on college students specifically that
are showing an increase in narcissism. What does that mean for the rest of us?
What it means for the rest of us is that, especially if you’re someone who’s keeping your own narcissism in check,
because it is a personality trait and we’re all dealing with a narcissistic machine called social media…
social media has created or helped to create a very narcissistic paradigm and it’s seductive because social media
makes it possible for you to feel seen if you’re someone who’s never felt seen,
social media is a great way for you to feel seen, but narcissism is about taking, it’s about exploitation, it’s about discarding you and devaluing you….”
“You see it in the media with celebrities all the time, there are days and years perhaps that that the masses love one
celebrity, then all of a sudden they hate that celebrity, right?
And so it’s the same thing with social media you can be up one day and get lots of likes and all
of a sudden someone comes along some says something negative or exposes something about you and
all those likes disappear and then what happens your sense of self is is rocked because you’re not getting
that validation that you got from social media and so I think that it’s very smart for all of us to be very wise
about how we use social media and how social media has been designed to get us hooked, to love bomb us, to
seduce us, just like a narcissist and to maybe even gaslight us into staying hooked,
you know we all know that there are trolls that exist out there who dislike,
you just for the sake of disliking you they have nothing else better to do but
to say negative things about you and to harass you right and so what that does is it gaslights you.
We all know that smear campaigns happen all the time on facebook all the time on social media and it can
have a profound impact on someone’s sense of self, especially on younger people…”
“..and so you’re going to have to deal with learning how to outsmart and outplay a narcissist from time to time
you’re going to bump into a garden variety narcissist, there is no doubt that you will either work with a
narcissist, that you will be friends with the narcissist or someone who is high on the spectrum.
You will date a narcissist, marry a narcissist, there’s no doubt that you’re going to bump into someone,
that you need to learn how to protect yourself from and to develop some life skills around,
so that you can stay anchored in the self and not get sucked into the gears of a narcissistic
relationship, so a narcissist will love bomb you, a narcissist will idealize you to get what they want,
it is not about you, it’s always going to be about the narcissist, when it comes to social media,
algorithms are being created and what the algorithm does is, it love bombs you
it feeds you more of what you are looking at…”
“..that algorithm is taking all that information and feeding you more and more
and more of it, that’s why i think it’s important that we don’t rely on social
media for all the information we receive, because it’s biased.
Whatever you tend to pay attention to is what what the narcissistic machine
called social media is going to feed you and so you become polarized…
let’s say that you’ve identified someone in your experience that you think is
narcissistic ..there’s a lack of empathy, there’s indifference, there’s self-righteousness,
there’s arrogance, they’re condescending, they’re passive aggressive, they’re snide, they blame everybody, there’s a lack of accountability and this is a pattern with this person it doesn’t get better…”
“..is your nervous system thinking that something is off so when you’re thinking
about…we don’t realize that we have this internal gps that is always trying to
get us to stay in the right lane, but we don’t listen, we get red flags, we go oh,
no it can’t be true, you know why? Because they’ve activated our narcissism, there’s a narcissistic trait that has been activated in us oh I feel seen oh i feel special oh i feel important and we must manage that, because it’s like cocaine it’s like a drug especially if you are thirsty to feel seen, if you are someone who grew up in a home with narcissistic parents, if you’re struggling with abandonment trauma if you have been made to feel
like your feelings were irrelevant then yes when you bump into a narcissist
who makes you feel seen think of social media they see me look at pretty
butterflies all over my face and puppy ears i’m so cute i’m so adorable
everybody likes my picture, you feel seen and you want more of it it’s
normal and it’s natural it’s a natural human response,
we’re connecting or so we think but we have to be careful because it’s a
fantasy,. we don’t know these people on social media, we don’t know them, you don’t know the
person that thinks you’re you’re a cute little puppy,
you don’t know that person so we need to stay with our feet on the ground and be
realistic about how much energy we invest in the machine this narcissistic social
media machine,as well as with a narcissist.”
“..do i feel like something’s off with this person at work do i feel like
something’s off with this friend chances are it’s off it is so uncomfortable to be
friends with someone, especially if you’re friends with someone for a long time and you start to see things like oh i don’t like the way that feels right
and you can get all caught up in trying to swat the red flags…
is my internal gps telling me that something’s off, you need to listen to that so rather
than focus on what the narcissist is doing focus on how you feel,
how do i feel when i’m around this person, do i feel seen, do i feel heard? How do i feel about what she just said to that person or how do i feel about how that how he treated that person how do i feel about that comment how do i feel about the way
that i’ve just been shafted and i’ve just been they’ve just turned their back on me how do i feel about the way i feel like i’m being ostracized, have you ever been in a situation, where you’re with a bunch of friends and you feel like they’re icing you, but it’s done so
subtly that you can’t call them out on it and then if you call them out on it,
they turn it around on you and they make you look like you’re the crazy person,
so rather than call them out on it, focus on yourself, how does this make me feel..”
“you’re better off excusing yourself and getting out of there and just removing yourself from the negative energy than confronting a narcissist because they’re going to blame you,
they are so good at not caring how you feel, so ignore them, in other words like
walk away figure out how you feel and say adios, bye Felicia
and do what you have to do .. we get into trouble when we want to confront a narcissist,
when we want to fight with the narcissist it’s not going to work out,
because a narcissist lacks empathy, so the problem with a narcissist when you’re arguing with the narcissist that you have to keep in mind is that they are not as moral as the average person who doesn’t have narcissism, in order to be moral it’s assumed and
presumed that part of why you’re moral is because you have this do unto other thing as you
would have others do unto you, you have empathy… someone yawns and you yawn, that’s an
empathy neuron, because you can relate to this person that helps us bond as human beings and not destroy one another you ever notice that when there’s a car accident
people one second were walking around on planet earth like they didn’t know
anybody not a care in the world, boom, there’s an accident happening and
people come out of the buildings they stop what they’re doing they stop their cars
they run towards the fire they’re dragging people out, it’s amazing it’s absolutely
amazing a narcissist is like what are you doing why are you stopping the car
go around them we’ve got our nails to get done…but someone that doesn’t have
narcissism, a kind person who has compassion is stopping that car, even just to call 9-1-1 to make sure everyone’s okay..”
“..if i refuse to do that the boat’s gonna sink i’ll have nothing
i’ll have nothing so i would rather identify where’s the hole in the boat so that i
can make a logical decision about whether or not i want to be with
this person so ask yourself are the tires flat in your relationship
and if so ask yourself why have you totaled your car talking about enmeshment
think about two cars that collide and they’re both now part of one car where
you can’t even see where the other car ends and the other car begins you can’t
see the edges anymore that’s what happens with a narcissistic relationship,
narcissists are empty holes and you can’t have a relationship
with a narcissist, relationships are fair, relationships grow, relationships bend
and they weave… narcissistic relationships are strict, it’s a
narcissist way or it’s no way, if you’re not gonna run around like a
co-dependent people-pleasing saying yes anticipating the needs of the
narcissist fanning them when it gets too hot, wiping their brow oh yes telling them
how beautiful they are, if you’re not going to do that the
relationship’s not going to work to be in a relationship with the
narcissist you can’t you can’t confront them, you can’t expect them to show up and be
fair to, you you can’t, because the minute you do that they become really aggressive and depending on what level of narcissism we’re dealing with will determine
their behavior, they can become super super aggressive, super super punitive, vindictive or they completely discard you, you never hear from them again, they ghost you until they need another source of narcissistic supply…”
“Greg Wallace
vor 10 Monaten
Our culture is a narcissist..we were born into a planned, narcissistic matrix that we’re finally waking up from. That’s why these channels are becoming more and more popular!”
“Andrew George
vor 10 Monaten
They don’t care. The hardest part is accepting a parent wants you to be a loser/unsuccessful/minimum confidence because they are in competition. And any success or any good characteristic that you have will be a threat to them.
Rad Fish
vor 4 Monaten
Sorry messed up parents.
Jelena
vor 10 Monaten (bearbeitet)
Sadly, but…YES
Good luck on that
We can do it 😊
Day Hill
vor 2 Monaten
You are worthy and lovable. ❤️
myroad
vor 9 Monaten
Narcissists never take responsibilities for all harm…and they convince people that they are very good persons and they blame them’s victims instead, this is the most evil and cruel thing from everything what they do that is not enough for them just to harm others but plus that they blame the victims for all evil they did and they play to be holy ! Sad thing is that many people believe them and justify all evil the do to the victims !
Leon Sandoval
vor 10 Monaten
“I’m so misunderstood” was what I dealt with for 20 years….
Star Borne
vor 10 Monaten
There’s a great documentary called The Social Dilemma that affirms exactly what she’s saying about social media influence.
Kelly K
vor 8 Monaten
So perfectly articulated on every single point.”
“Entanglement, word salad & Narc speak”
“[Music]
yeah, so tonight everybody, we’re going to talk about the hottest word,
the hottest word in the english language right now,
which is entanglement.”
“We are going to talk about entanglement, but we’re going to tonight we’re going
to talk about entanglement we’re going to talk about word salad, because really that’s all it is and narc speak we’re going to talk about cues that narcs use and the way they uh
you know just different ways they communicate because a lot of times you
know they tell us they tell us the story if you know how to listen to them…
“they tell us what everything that’s going on with them it’s just all about
learning how to speak their language..learning how to speak narc
but entanglement i looked the word … it’s basically like they said
.. a complicated controversial relationship…”
“The Narc starts out at the beginning with the future faking
and you’re just all in you know you’re just all in they’re making you
believe that you don’t have anything to worry about, you
have nothing to worry about, I’m gonna tell you another
thing that a narcissist does..”
“Jada is a whole monster…in the entire video it’s all about deflection,
you know we had an entanglement and you
know i’m gonna keep wearing that word
out, because that’s all you’re in if you’re with a Narc, you’re in
an entanglement, that’s a relationship with a monster. I´m
redefining it, okay, that’s a relationship with a monster,
okay, with a demon, a devil, that’s all it is, he went into the pig
pen.”
“We live in a society that really.. seems like it promotes it, really seems like, it seems
like it promotes dysfunction in relationships like nobody knows
how to just be straight up in a relationship anymore…”
“Making promises they know that they will never keep.”
“that’s a trauma bond people, that’s all that is, that’s not a relationship that’s entanglement, that’s entanglement, you were in an entanglement, that’s all it is.”
“if you’re with a narc you’re in an entanglement you’re not in a
marriage you’re not in a real relationship it’s an entanglement, that´s it…because they’re telling you everything you need to hear a lot of times we let things go over your head
because you don’t want to seem like you’re playing them too serious..you need to be too
serious, especially when you’re meeting somebody new, run the crazies away from you,
okay, the person is for you is for you if you gotta go past a hundred, five hundred people
to get to that one person, that’s for you then you need to do that, clear your life out.”
“There are many spectacular tiny chubby birds in the wild. These little shapes are put on one-of-their-kind coats, making them conspicuous whenever they appear. In other words, these creatures have the charisma to make us fall in love with them. They are tiny but shine brightly in their colony!”
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“The #Narcissists’ Code 88: Why Traveling with a #narcissist can be an awful experience for you”
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“I am a narcissist, I know how it is to travel with a narcissist,
a lot of times when you’re dealing with nurses, we will literally ruin trips,
literally ruin the best moments of your life in the different countries road
trips, anything and everything because trip being away from home being this place is
uncommon this is let me let me back it up real quick this is not going to cover
every single narcissist i know some people people are going to comment on
this so people are going to hear this on the podcast and be like
no i mean my narcissists love to travel, it was a great traveler, okay, cool,
not all narcissists are the same this is speaking from my own perspective
and i know what it is like to travel
with me, so road trips are not fun. because like let’s just say
we start we we’ve been playing on a road
trip for like a month and then
the day of the road trip we leave
everything’s gonna be packed up and good
to go everybody’s in the car packed up
everybody’s happy all of a sudden we get
like an hour into the trip let’s say
it’s a nine hour trip… something as simple as a forgotten pair
of dollar store headphones can lead to a narcissist ruining your
trip and blaming you for ruining the trip the entire time, so imagine nine hours of silence other than like if i’m driving it’s my car, we’re not listening to music either, you’re gonna enjoy this silence, you’re gonna take this punishment for leaving my headphones behind
it doesn’t have to be headphones headphones whatever it’s interchangeable
if you forget something at the beginning of the trip and the narcissist realizes that and it’stoo late to turn back you’re going to get punished for…”
“The”FAKE HAPPY FOR YOU FRIEND” #NARCISSIST”
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“be aware, be careful of the company you keep, narcs are everywhere…now we’re talking about the so-called friend, the fake happy for you friend.”
“the fake happy for you friend is jealous, they’re envious of you in your life,
they’re looking at you and they wish they were you,
anything you do they’re trying to duplicate it but they want to outdo you..”
“..everybody has one, everybody has one..”
“The #FLYINGMONKEYS Hate the #NARCISSIST and this is why!”
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“The flying monkey is himself a quasi narcissist.”
“It may be the looks of the flying monkey,
it may be their charisma, whatever the situation,
they don’t have it, so they are basically
the backup, they’re the stuntman for the
narcissist.”
“That’s how flying monkeys think they want to be larger than life, they really
want that energy, they want that charisma, they want to be that person,
the narc, the flying monkeys really want to be that person and yet they are still,
they’re jealous, they’re envious of them..”
“the dislike, because the flying monkey wants respect,
okay, the flying monkey actually wants to
be respected by the narc,
but they realize this person doesn’t
respect me and doesn’t respect anybody
no matter if you’re standing with them
if you’re helping their agenda whatever
the situation is
the narcissist is not going to respect
the flying monkey and the flying monkey
resents it, so therefore the flying monkey actually
starts to not like the narcissist they don’t
and you’ll see like when you get close
to the discard phase with a flying
with a narcissist they’re going to
really start to hang with
one person in their crew and that one
person is you guessed it
the one person is always gonna be that
one you
hate it the one you can’t stand for them
to be around
that single person that’s wild and just
out there and will deal with anybody and they want
they’re reckless that reckless person that’s who
the narcissist that you’re dealing with… and also
they want to be around somebody who’s
living like they are,
the narcissist knows the entire time
that they’re dealing with you
..that eventually
this is going down and they keep this
character,
they keep this flying monkey keep them
to the side for remote for the most part
until they’re ready to do their dismantling of the entanglement…
you know there’s no love for the empath anymore.”
“the flying monkey it still has a a level of envy
of the life of the narcissist okay they have a level of
envy because they they they envy the fact that the narcissist
is able to manipulate people and they’re able to have all of this all
of these people want to do things for the narcissist all
of these people want to do things for the narcissist,
but at the end of the day even when the narcissist is abusive,
even when the narcissist is abusive,
it doesn’t matter because they still
do the same things for the narcissist people don’t just cut the narcissist off
so the flying monkey has a bit of jealousy in them..”
”
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Lieblosigkeit macht krank | Prof. Dr. Dr. Gerald Hüther
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Lieblosigkeit erleben und empfinden ist grausam besonders in der Familie
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Dafür muss der Mensch kein Gelehrter sein. – Ich hatte Lehrer, die mit voller Absicht die “Psycho-Waffe” des “Hinausekelns” leistungs- und persönlichkeitsschwacher Schüler anwandten. Eine grässliche Zeit.
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Manfred Hammel ja kenn ich… Aber jeder hat das Recht auf Liebe 😍!!
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yeah man listen y’all
we can keep on i mean we can go on
forever and ever
we can do this forever right now but
listen one thing is
one third one thing certain two things
for sure
as long as you’re dealing with the
narcissist as long as you’re dealing
with the devil
you ain’t ever gonna have peace with
that devil
you’re never gonna get reciprocity from
that devil
and you know you know something how we
always
you know say that we play a role and
then we play a part in this
i’m taking that back man i’m giving this
devil
all the credit for destroying the
relationships
that they destroyed i’m giving this
devil
all the credit for all the lying that
they have done
for all the cheating that they have done
for all the stealing they have done
all the confusion they have called i’m
giving them all the credit for it,
because they deserve it they deserve
all the credit for cheating, lying, stealing, conniving, backstabbing,
undercutting, manipulating, gaslighting i’m giving them all the
credit for that, because they deserve it because they’ve
worked hard listen y’all
the the devil is working extremely hard
okay the devil is working extremely hard
to receive everything that he’s gonna
get that he’s getting
everything that he’s getting, his karma,
his karma you know
his karma requires it
and i’m saying just like that for us
that’s right hey mark you know it you
know it
you know they never stop working this is
a lifestyle for them y’all
.
.
they all are loyal workers they are
loyal to being devils this is what this
someone said i want to say this too
we get so caught up y’all haven’t
noticed something
have it i know that y’all noticed this
notice how this narcissist how the devil
works so hard y’all haven’t noticed how
hard they work
when they’re trying to destroy you
could you imagine if they just took that
and just switched it around
…
some of the work that they have been
doing to tear you
down to destroy your relationship
had they just taken a little bit…”
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They are just master of destruction, Narcs don’t care if you are caring passionate person who is full of trust, loyalty. Once they do there dirt against you it hard to recover from it even after the fact you have move on..Tamara.
“Nichts ist ansteckender als Liebe. Spread the Love.”
if you’re a caring passionate person who
is full of trust and loyalty
once they do their dirt against you it’s
hard to recover from,
it’s hard to recover from it, even after
the fact
you have moved on,
honestly, y’all, you’re going to feel like
you’re going to feel like …
you’re going to hate this is something
that’s going to be with you man you’re
going to still think about the person
the object of the game is not to not
think about them the object of the game is to be able to
think about that person and not be in
pain
okay because you’re still gonna think
about the person it’s somebody who did
something to you
they took you through a very traumatic
situation you had a very traumatic
experience with them
you know so that’s what you have to look…
they are precise when they do what they
do
…”
”
“I declare WAR with the #NARCISSIST & the new supply pt1”
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“I’m all about destroying this monster look here I got my own fatigue shirt on
today because I declare war against narcissists, okay, that’s what I’m here for.
I’m here for totally destroying the narcissists, I’m not here to be their
friend, just like they were not your friend, they were not my friend, they are
lying, cheating, thieves, okay, that’s why I’m here. I want to continue to bring
nuclear power to the Empath, to the super empath, that’s right, the
super empath, listen people, you’re dealing with a dirty low-down, no-good
snake, a dirty no-good, no, they don’t respect anything and if you think
for one second that there with this new person oh not new person cuz this this
let’s kill that right there it’s not somebody new, it’s somebody they’ve been
running around the whole time, then look at this the whole time when they
starting these little arguments with you here and man you like what’s going on
why why are we arguing, why we always go through this, when they argue with you
that’s when they’re sneaking off with the other supply, that’s when they
are grooming their other supplies, they are glooming people and when they come home
to you or come around you and they always got an attitude and they can’t
you can’t seem to make peace with them, that’s why, because they have to get away
to their other supply, okay, you’re not crazy you didn’t lose your mind they
want you to think you’re crazy but more than that they wants you to not expose
them that’s right they do not the worst expose them and the reason that that is
the worst thing that can ever happen to an art see I wants out a key I want you
how to get this an art is only effective if you don’t know who they are and then
I will tell you something, because narcissists, they watched my
page. I’ve seen them on my page, they watched my page, they watch other peoples
pages, they are not making videos like this, because people, they do not want to
lose the Empath, they don’t want to lose the Empath, they don’t want to lose that
power over you so yes there’s some narcissists out here making videos about
narcissism, absolutely…you’re not coming to me because my I’m so dark, you
are coming to me, because it’s light over here.”
“Stop making pretend they don’t know what they’re doing to you,
they know exactly what they’re doing to you, but what they banking on is you’re
not gonna hold them accountable, that’s what they banking on, you know you can
feel sorry for me they just shot you a sad story about their sorry life, being this data
whatever something happened to, so what I’m sorry y’all I could care less about
a narcissist life..I just don´t…I’m watching them going on deep they come in and they are trying to infiltrate our camp, they’re bringing this cancerous Virus,
trying to spread a virus in our camp, they’re trying to dump us down, they
don’t want you in enough they don’t want you in a place where you can start
I’m watching them going on deep, they come in and they are trying to infiltrate
our camp, they’re are trying to spread a virus in our camp,
they’re trying to dump us down they don’t want you in enough they don’t want
you in a place where you can start listening to your spirit…”
“I’m dropping nuclear bombs on these dirty no-good… it’s all about being led by your spirit .”
“A narc should be another word for devil, for evil excuses, harm, hypocrite, everything
bad anything bad..”
“they put lying stealing cheating into the universe and then they got somebody
that they’re running with they’ve proven to you they are a liar a cheater
a thief they’ve shown and proven that to you and yet you think that they are
blessed…”
“none of it I’m gonna tell you this from the videos that I’ve seen I can’t I
haven’t seen all of the videos most of the videos have told you listen get your
life together cut the narcissus off you wanna really
punish the narcissus cut them up they coming back to the scene of the crime
they always come back to the scene of the crime they wanna see if you still
hurt they want to see how bad they hurt you that’s how dirty they are people they
dirty the knock is dirty ain’t none clean about the narcissus nothing pure
unadulterated evil that’s all you’re gonna get from a narcissus they are evil
people I don’t know about y’all but I’m feeling a paradigm shift in the universe.”
“I feel a paradigm shift we are in the battle right now with the devil, we are working against the devil himself, people, the devil being exposed, he’s fighting back.
He has everything to lose in this war, because look at this if the devil
becomes exposed, when he is exposed, he is worthless, he is a joke after that, he cannot
torture, he cannot go through this planet and just get over like he’d been getting
over, so he is fighting, he is fighting, y’all wanna know how to torture the
narcissus expose them, expose that dirty low-down no-good rat expose them they’re
banking on what they did to you they don’t want you coming out here telling
nobody about it.”
“..the narcissist, listen, they were gonna pick somebody with no boundaries, okay,
none, the narcissist is lazy, okay, they are lazy, they are trifling..”
“they act this way around me you know.. I’ll bring out this extra in them, it’s not you, na, partner, it’s not you, they act like that with everybody, they act like that with everybody,..you thought it was you, they are like that with everybody, they are for everybody, they are for anybody, they have no standards people, they have
none.”
“I declare WAR with the #NARCISSIST & the new supply pt2”
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“it’s all about deception people, it’s all about deception,
everything about this narc, it is all about deception.”
“A Narc cannot handle being cut off; that’s one of the worst punishment after being exposed and to “ou prove that they’re not stronger, they’re weak, they already are insecure
pigs anyway, they’re insecure people. I know they you know there’s usually
they’re in a gym and they’re doing this and they’re doing that it’s all about
their looks, they’re all insecure, they’re insecure people, these are not secure
people these are people that are trying to get over on other people because
they’re insecure, they need people to build them up they need other people to
give them that reassurance, a narcissus is weak..and all that friends and the people that are around narcissists, you got to be low vibration to be around them all the time,
listen people the reason the knot has discarded all you made you discard them
was because you’re constantly reaching for higher vibration, a narcissist is
trying to keep you on that low vibration, they want to keep you down because
they cannot torture you if you’re not on a low vibration..”
“..let your intuition lead the rest of you and the NARC cannot be effective against
you, okay..you have to follow your intuition…”
“I’m strictly here to lead you back to you that’s it that’s my part in this war I’m here to
put the soldiers back in contact with the soldier, because the soldier is going
to save the soldier people this is war this is spiritual warfare and you
know what the vibration that we are right now, you can tell, because you feel
it you feel it in the univers you feel it in the atmosphere there’s something so different now everything is different..”
“We are in spiritual warfare people this devil is coming for us
it wants to totally destroy us that’s his plan but the good news is that we win, we win.”
“The super empath wins, we win..”
“#narcissist #NPD #narcissistabuse”
“The awakening of the super Empath is the death of the narcissist”
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“Just weak-ass…you are dealing with a weak jelly-back-sorry-no-good trifling dog..man you
are dealing with garbage, you’re dealing with trash man you’re dealing with some
straight trash yeah the narcissist is trash and they don’t deserve the credit
that you’ve given them they don’t deserve the credit that you giving them
they’re not on your level they’re not on your level they come here they have an
assignment,an assignment of destruction, that’s it, they came here to destroy and they are not builders of anything, they are destroyers, destroyers of people and guess what the
super empath is here to destroy you, to expose you, you’re nothing, you’re weak,
you’re trifling, people listen, they are weak.. they just know how to run game, that’s all it is, they know how to run game and the game is to make you think that they are the
special one, they are not, they didn’t pick you, because they’re special, they
picked you because you’re special, okay, .. you didn’t pick them
.. they picked you, the NARC picked you … and they picked you, because they see your light, they see your light and they see that you are soft target ..because you
want to help people, you want to be a loving helping person…
to a narcissist, you are the Fountain of Youth you’re the reason that they walking around and get to look a little younger, a little younger, a little better,
you’re like a fountain of youth to them, you are, because they are nothing but blood
suckers, they mirrored you, but when you mirrored them,… people, that’s what the
saying came from the one that dishes it can’t take it, take it from one who knows,
they cannot take it, they cannot take it, so when you start to mirroring, mirroring
the narcissist, trust me, you will never see them again, they may Hoover later, but it’s going to be a lot later and really they probably won’t even be up for that anymore with
you, because they know once you have been exposed to the truth about them and the
truth about who you are and with the and truly your position you’ll understand
who has the power because you have the power, the narcissist does not, it’s only
a misconception, if you were depleted of energy, it’s just like a blood worm you know like you jump into a lake that has blood worms you know they attach themselves to your skin they’re gonna stay on you until you have no more blood when they you don’t have any blood they jump it off they gotta jump on something this giving them blood that’s a narcissist,
they are only there to suck all the blood out of you, they can to supply your energy, once they have depleted you off that, they’re out, they are running to the next
copious supply, people they are weak, they are weak…”
” I got a call from young lady from Germany, just yesterday…”
“When a #NARCISSIST loses the best supply it’s ever had, it leads to their death! A lonely death!”
…
Stanley Jones: vor 3 Monaten: Narcissists don’t have a personality they have a “poisonality”…
Susan Piechowski: vor 1 Monat: You suffocate them when you remove their supply period.
r tre: vor 2 Monaten: Why don’t they teach mental health in schools ? Where a lot of this begins through starting to explore feelings for another and not truly understanding healthy relationships.
Ellie Vargas: vor 2 Monaten: I truly believe the same demon rides in these people. Their act is textbook. They will punish you for loving them and they always bite the hand that feeds them.
Tilisa Kay: vor 2 Wochen: Listen, this is one of the best narc messages I have heard to a T!!!
Eric Wood: vor 2 Monaten: I’ve watched a lot of different videos. You are by far the most straightforward and down to earth with what you say and believe in and I can relate to that 100% thanks!
Donna McKie: vor 3 Wochen: Oh damn! This is deep! Everything you’ve said is spot on!
Diamond -Toledo Oh: vor 3 Monaten: Words are just WORDS. EMPTY. They show you WHO THEY ARE. By actions.
Chanel Clement: vor 2 Monaten:God is using you today my brother. I needed to hear this word of wisdom. God is using you.
Miranda Allen: vor 2 Monaten: It’s a whole other ballgame when kids are involved and you get tied into a legal arrangement. Courthouses are a narcs playground.
Sanchez HandyMen: vor 4 Tagen: I love your “real” talk! it’s refreshing!
Lagetta Johnson: vor 1 Monat: Preach brother preach you did this…you helped me so much.
Anita Freeman: vor 3 Monaten: The niceness only last for a short time, then the mask comes off!!
the dark light: vor 2 Monaten: That was intense.
Christina Hughes: vor 3 Monaten: In the last days they will be lovers of self❤️.
Spirit Immortal: vor 2 Monaten: Exactly.
Internet Gangsta: vor 1 Monat: Facts.
Anonymous Bot: vor 3 Monaten: The love bomb is the most powerful of all by conditioning our brain to get addicted to narcissist.
UNSA Tigris: vor 1 Woche: You are absolutely on point about people who are narcissist. You’ve got to let go and let God deal with them. I know firsthand. There is peace at the end of the rainbow from their madness.
Sandra David: vor 2 Tagen: It’s more like a spritual warfare. As they do this intentionally. When all this is quoted in the bible. They must be demonic. Thank you for all you’re interesting comments. God bless you.
my name is LOVE: vor 1 Monat: My soul breathes with this understanding ty.
Dana Blu: vor 2 Monaten: this man is speaking facts!
Brianca Allen: vor 2 Monaten: Trifling 🤣🤣🤣 this is so true 🙌🏽💯.
K AD: vor 3 Monaten: You’re a warrior Hario! God bless you for your words of wisdom! 🤗
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“There’s no such thing as no communication, you see communication can happen in many ways beyond just exchanges of words and that’s something that narcissists, especially the covert narcissists have figured out
and they will use that to their advantage left and right and it’s very important for you to understand that dynamic now let’s keep in mind that overt narcissists..now let’s keep in mind that overt
narcissists, they leave nothing to the imagination, ..they want to be in control, they want to be superior,
they’ll dismiss you if you disagree with them, they have a strong attitude of entitlement, they can be manipulative exploitive, they don’t care about your feelings at all and when you’re in those people’s
presence, it doesn’t take much time for those kind of ingredients to show up. The covert narcissist however has thought you know there’s a different way that i can go about doing that and i’m going to be
less vulnerable and in doing so i can actually have more power and so they develop what i
call the silent language of narcissism, it’s like, well, i’m going to let you know exactly how
poorly i think of you, i’m just not going to put it into words and that way i’m not going to leave any kind of trail there, where i can be held accountable and they they are every bit as self-absorbed as the brash grandiose over narcissist, but they’re much more difficult to pin down.”
“When you have somebody that has covert narcissism, they’re going to be much more under the
radar in the way that they show their self absorption, for example they can just be the
ultimate disinterested person, they can be in attentive toward you they can deem you to be
irrelevant… you don’t matter or they can have a real low regard for you and your opinions and
they can show very low concern whatsoever for your well-being that ever happened with you, they can be
cold and aloof or they can be highly avoidance like where’d they go or you know they just
seem to have such a condescending attitude towards me, they can be forgetful, it’s like oh you told me that
i’m sorry i forgot, but in doing so they’re communicating something,
they can be emotionally unavailable or quietly self-indulgent they can have an air of
sarcasm in the way that they engage with people, they can be super defensive…and then the covert narcissism is saying a whole lot they may not be using actual words but uh something is being said
in their silent forms of interaction with you…they engage with you in their passive
aggressive approach toward life and as i’m going through this i want you to think have you ever felt
like this was what they would say if they could actually articulate what’s going on,
they’ll never say it…when these covert narcissists go into those uh those silent forms of
non-communication communication basically what they’re conveying is you mean
nothing to me or i’m the only one in the equation that really matters haven’t you figured
that out yet or uh connecting with people and it takes too much energy, I don´t want to be bothered…I am angry…they can hold a lot of bitterness and resent…internal feelings of insecurity or in addition these covert narcissists they like to communicate silently i like people i like keeping people
guessing about me, i like feeling uh in power and i love that feeling of power that i get when
when i’m a mysterious individual, that’s pretty cool… if anyone has rejected me screw you…i really want to be free from any obligations you may think that you’re going to place on me…i don’t trust you or anyone else that’s just not something i do i’m not gonna make the effort to uh to go over that bridge with anyone…or they can communicate no one and i mean no one tells me what to think say or do not gonna happen or
i get a charge when i see how frustrated you feel, it’s kind of like a game to me, you’re a game to me
and then they’re also communicating i’m not gonna necessarily tell you a lie,
but i’m not all that committed to honesty either..that’s part of the silent language of the covert.. I’m
guessing that many of you are kind of nodding your head thinking yep that’s exactly what i’ve experienced..the genius of this uh style or strategy that they use is that they can say to you if you try to call
them out: I never said that you got me wrong and so they can’t be held under any kind of scrutiny..that’s the way that covert narcissists play the game now let’s understand that these individuals are very fear
based they’re driven by that fear they they’ve determined that being open and letting people know who they really are and what they think really is a giving up of power but if you’re a healthy individual it’s like
i don’t want my relationship to be power-based anyway but that’s how they think…but in general pessimism and futility is simply what drives them uh they have no good re or no good thought about
creating well-being inside their primary relationships… or even things like your schedule or
business transactions and things of that nature have the least amount of connection to
these people because they love being in the position of control and…how to handle relationships in a much
cleaner way i don’t need to be a part of their power plays that they do in this passive aggressive covert style of self-absorption and control.”
“..just know that covert narcissist can be some of the most difficult people on the planet to deal with
but once you’re on to it once you see what it is and you can see behind the
scenes i’m hoping you can devise your strategy that says i’m not playing their game
anymore, i’m quite i’m quite okay with me being what i am and in doing so i hope that you can live
a life that’s anchored in calm confidence..”
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Narcissists are Ungrateful And Entitled. Learn To Manage Narcissistic Abuse.
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“narcissists have an expectation with their invitation, always, that’s the deal,
they’re not grateful for you sacrificing your time, no, no, they’re expecting that you come over and you fill a role.”
“and your pursuit of happiness, let’s not allow that to happen my name is kevin
and this is the royal we, now before we get into talking about the
problems we face in dealing with the ungrateful attitude of narcissistic
people… now we’re talking about the ungrateful attitudes of narcissistic people,
generally what we’re talking about is their unthankfulness for your time and your energy, their unappreciation that you take the time to visit with
them or spend time with them, they’re unthankfulness, in general, right and you really see this in times where they invite you over which is really confusing because on one hand you think they want you around but when
you do come around they treat you horribly, criticizing you, calling you names,
mocking you, trying to fight with you whatever the case…that’s not how you
treat people when you want them around you, isn’t that right? …”
“What Is Neglectful Narcissism? 7 Ways To Spot It”
there’s a very common pattern inside narcissism that i want you to be aware of and it’s the pattern of
neglect, in fact we’ll go ahead and call it uh neglectful narcissism… First of all people who are very
covert in their narcissism, they do this neglectful narcissism left and right,
the covert narcissist is so into themselves, but they don’t want to make themselves vulnerable, so they can just
quietly sabotage this and the other with respect to all sorts of relational goals uh the overt narcissist may be into
their vanity they may be very dominant and overwhelming and persuasive, they too can go into the neglectful
style of narcissism, either way it’s extremely common to thepoint of being central to what it means to be narcissistic. In
addition to their need for control their, self-centeredness, their entitlement, their attitude of superiority,
the neglectful narcissist has a strong message that they want to send other individuals and that is simply this: I don’t care
about you, your needs, your feelings, they just don’t even register, have you ever been on the receiving end of that
kind of treatment and it can be so debilitating and so insulting and if you sit down and try to talk with them about
making adjustments you’re going to get the doesn’t matter uh reaction and truly you realize that the these folks they
can neglect you left and right and you’re wanting to have some sort of nurturance from them it’s like nope: I don’t do that that’s just not in my nature now there are seven primary indicators that i want you to be aware of because knowledge is power and i want you to see that these are certain things that they’re going to do repetitively, it’s just part of their
predictability and it’s so important for you to recognize this is not about you they’re playing out their own pathology on to you, but it’s not a commentary about who you are as a person, okay, now one of the first indicators that we
can say uh of neglectful narcissism is they’re blind to or at the very least they’re disinterested in your humanity
now i use that word humanity very specifically your humanity includes so many different ingredients i mean it can be something like the the temperament type that you bring to the equation we all have a different temperament type
and i’m sure many of you have been into those kind of things it’s quite interesting you have a unique set of circumstances
that you draw upon from your past some pluses some minuses you have a whole array of interests uh that are a part of who you
are you have needs you have struggles you have things that you think are funny you have things that
you take very seriously, all of that goes into your humanity and when you say well i’d like to engage
with you on all of that i’d like to know you in that level and i want you to know me at that level that neglectful narcissist is like no, i’m too busy tending the million i don’t really care and you’ll notice that they they they truly
don’t really want to know that much about you you’re just an entity you’re someone to be used but you’re not someone to get to know and uh and they they let you know not interested i don’t want to invest myself into that feature a second
primary indicator of their the neglectful narcissism is that they’ll point blank minimize
and ridicule any requests that you make of them let’s suppose that you want hem to help you out or that they’ve been kind of
rude and you’d like for them to modulate that some or that there’s an adjustment you’d like to make between you and them…
say hey look this is a two-way street here, it’s called a relationship, it’s like um i’m not interested in
knowing what your requests are i’m not interested in knowing what you think would make things a little bit
better because you see it’s all about me so they neglect you in that respect, now a third primary indicator of
neglectful narcissism is that they’ll gladly service themselves, but they will not really give much service to you,
we all have needs and uh and preferences as we go along if you’re living with someone for.”
“..a fifth primary indicator is that they have a lack of focus on the things that you enjoy..”
“they minimize the the things that would make you feel good it’s like sorry not impressed not interested and you can go away thinking…as far as that neglectful narcissist is concerned you’re just not adequate enough
you’ll never be good enough they’ll never be interested in you uh they’re not going to invest in you as
a person, you are an inconvenience unless you’re just doing whatever they want you to do
and then they can be happy and cheerful and all of that ..don’t don’t fall for that again i’m going to mention this is about
them it’s certainly not about you, so let’s let’s recognize relationships aren’t going to succeed if only one person
is trying it’s a two-way street…they don’t see you as being human, they want to dehumanize you but i’m hoping that
you’ll humanize yourself by saying well i’m a person of dignity and i’m a person who deserves respect and i want to be treated with civility … and if that neglectful narcissist over there uh just doesn’t uh uh care to engage you’re not the one
that’s gonna lose.”
“J S: vor 1 Monat: That’s what it is – pure neglect. Done on purpose to cause pain and long term suffering. All the while tacitly expecting adoration in return. I’m so glad I found you a year ago Dr C – still in shock that this ‘neglect’ has a name, that it’s not normal and that I don’t have to endure it anymore. Thank you 😘”
“Tootie Not too fruitie: vor 1 Monat: JS… unfortunately I see this stuff as quite common.. just underneath alot of”nice” people are a narcissist.”
“Katrina: vor 1 Monat: Oh the neglect, it hurts so much, is so cruel, especially when it’s your mother… and it never stops, even when you’re an adult.”
“Michele Pascoe: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet):
They can pretend being interested when they want info to use against you, or to look good in front of others. So they know what kind and caring looks like, but they really don’t care.”
“Rosemary Whitehead: vor 1 Monat: Like being married to a nine year old, or whatever age it was when they lost their childhood.”
“Misti Roberts: vor 1 Monat: Yes! My husband is like a toddler.”
“corsican lulu: vor 1 Monat: you are right they def. have arrested development.”
“S: vor 1 Monat: When someone emotionally neglect you. Do them a huge favour and block delete and no contact with them forever. That’s your responsibility for seeing the red flags 🚩 and not entertaining people that treat you poorly. 💖”
“David Slocum: vor 1 Monat:I am SO Happy you are addressing this subject. Not many docs talk about this side of narcissistic abuse. This kind of abuse is truly maddening!”
“Mevrouw Hekstra: vor 1 Monat: It’s a very special kind of narcissism. Hard to adress and very different in dealing with it. Almost no fights, no screaming, no physical violence, push&pull, etc. It’s “just” al little bit of lovebombing in the beginning and after a while very lonely and disturbing. It left me totally confused about who I was and my if I was worth something. My divorce was based on setting deadlines to him: if you don’t respond to my proposal before [reasonable date], then I assume you agree. That worked out greatly :)”
“Alice Roberts: vor 1 Monat: It’s every hurtful but that’s why they do it they like to hurt you.”
“Carol Clowes: vor 1 Monat: I’m constantly put in silent treatment. That´s fine, he’s now blocked.”
“Barry BullSh1tter: vor 1 Monat: It’s due to none of it being understood. The problem is corrupt media and Governments have manipulated our society that much we have all these toxic issues. For the most they’re not even recognised as problems so they go on and get worse.”
“Mary Lou Monheim: vor 1 Monat
I will go on, I never did anything that caused his issues. Wish I had my eyes opened years ago. Peace at 70 years of age.”
“Hissy Fitz: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet):
1.They are blind to/disinterested in your humanity. You’re someone to be used but not someone to get to know. 🎯
2. They’ll minimize & ridicule any requests that you make of them.
3. They will gladly service themselves but will not give much service to you.
4. They won’t show up even when it might be the norm – a no show.”
5. They have a lack of focus on things you enjoy.
6. They are stingy with compliments, praise or affirmation.
7. They love to sabotage your sense of confidence in yourself.”
CHRISTOPHER HOLMAN: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet):
“My ex-fiancee literally fit the bill on every single step. She has moved on to someone she cheated with and they haven’t a clue whats in store. I am fortunate to have freed myself and found an empathic partner similar to myself to progress and grow in life. Narcissists are spiritually dead and can’t live without drama trauma.”
“katkollies: vor 1 Monat: Yes, I refer to it as Willful Disinterest. They WORK at being disinterested or at the very least let you know that they couldn’t care less about your stuff.”
Russellm: vor 1 Monat: Oh yes I’ve narrowed down what most of my relatives are especially my mother to high-functioning covert neglectful narcissism/psychopathy.
I’m 53 years old and started learning and realizing what my mother was my whole life until just several years ago when I began realizing something was very very wrong.
About the worst of the worst type of narcissist I think. I often wish mom/relatives were more overt and the type that wants you around all the time.
Mom never wanted me around she treated me my whole life like I didn’t even exist or if I made myself known in some way she treated me like I shouldn’t exist and I was her only child and then she and her husband went and adopted a baby when I was about 23 years old just out of the army and back from the first Gulf War traumatized.
Mom stole my grandfather’s home and property from me when he passed away several years ago she didn’t need his house she had she and her husband had a big brand new home already. …
God bless anyone affected by these kind of people.”
“M Ghodsian: vor 1 Monat: Mothers are glamourised usually. In fact they can be very sadistic and cruel. Keep at it and hope things can improve. I wish you well. Seek truth and goodness and beauty…. give it time.”
Gloria Donahue: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet): Can’t wait for this one. There isn’t enough discussion about the neglectful narcissists.
Christina LW28: vor 1 Monat: My older sister treats me like this. A lifetime of condescension and neglect.
Andre Noble: vor 1 Monat: Plants and animals under their care sometimes do not flourish well.
cjean: vor 1 Monat:This is the best description of neglectful narcissism I have ever heard. 100% spot on. Thank you!
Tin Man: vor 1 Monat: Neglectful narcissists start slowly and phase in their neglect over time. Eventually conversation will stop, you’ll get one word answers, they’ll do nothing to please you, and they’ll become angry if you ask anything of them. I bought a quarter-million dollar yacht, and my ex spent all her time below playing computer blackjack, and refused to help me with docking. The messaging is “You don’t mean anything to me,” and then they’re taken aback when you bounce.
Hughes SignCo: vor 3 Wochen: Right, The one word answers are crap.
Nola Orth: vor 1 Monat: Now l know why l come away from this person feeling drained and depressed.
Jeanog: vor 1 Monat: I’ve seen this with siblings and cousins. In each case, I can pinpoint in them, unresolved resentments from childhood.
Eve McFarland: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet): This is what I’ve lived with for over 20 years. It is so lonely and most of the time, I feel invisible. They really don’t want to know you.
NARCISSIST ESSAYS: vor 1 Monat: So true. Even the silent treatment has levels. They make you speak and then leave you hanging, purposely doing the silent in conversation to make you suddenly feel silly and irrelevant.
Katrina: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet): OMG, spot on. My mother does this all the time. Makes me feel like I’m going crazy or going to explode. The intentional withholding of affection , conversation, interest, it is beyond cruel.
NARCISSIST ESSAYS: vor 1 Monat: @Katrina yup, my mum too and a “best friend” I used to have. Annoyed just thinking about it. As you said it’s just so cruel.
Hughes SignCo: vor 3 Wochen: That dear is baiting. They bait the hook, wait for you to bite, then let you reveal what they will target next. It’s a reconnaissance mission. So they can psyop you. (Psyop is a military term for psychological manipulation.) For any non-military readers.
Robert Lyon: vor 1 Monat: I wish that I could find someone who cares as much as I do about life but I keep striking out and getting stuck with these evil people, such a waste of my time and life, it sucks to think of what could have been.
Tamara’s Tarot Variety:vor 1 Monat: They’re very strategic in what they listen too. They ignore everything until they hear something that they like, then they’ll get excited. My Narc parents ignored all of my targeted brother’s needs except they’d talk about food with him, so of course not helping him to play sports, drive, go anywhere, he got stuck at home and ate. Then they complained that he was lazy and overweight 🤷🏻♀️
Jan Ingraham: vor 1 Monat: They use saying “no” as a weapon, another way to hurt you. They don’t want to make happy…and the law of attraction will never work with them, and eventually they will have an affair with your best friend.
Junipernikki B: vor 1 Monat: The one I dealt with actually said that they knew they were neglectful when I confronted their behavior but they didn’t change at all. They didn’t care. They just wanted people to like them.
Kim Larsson: vor 1 Monat: When trying to get attention for more than 10 seconds is an offense, you know who you are dealing with…
Pink Posey: vor 1 Monat: Careful! These people like to start lawsuits with others based on a stare. Thank you Dr. Carter.
Holly Green: vor 1 Monat: Why are all my relationships like this? I am starving for connection.
Julie H: vor 1 Monat: Work on yourself and figure out why you attract them. Dig deep and you will come up with answers. Take your time and eventually you will find someone you deserve. You may have had a narcissistic parent who conditioned you to find a narcissistic partner.
Ruby Cubez: vor 1 Monat: I realize my mom is a covert narc. I realize I know all these things about her but I’m pretty sure she can’t name my fav color or any of my hobbies. She still doesn’t know what I do for a living even though I told her multiple times on diff occasions. It’s frustrating and sad.
M M: vor 1 Monat (bearbeitet):
They keep telling you that you have it so good by being with them, but really they need you for narcissistic supply or to sustain them. They also ‘steal’ all your ideas, mirror your interests and later present them as theirs, or that they taught you all that you are.
InfinityExpressor2021: The true human virus replicant then..maybe the brain-computer-interface and the match-maker software of the NSA gave them the rest of their abrupt discard missions, also look at alien love bite, hybrid involvement in human social interactions, nowadays you must think of the many possibilities that synthetic brain invasion via a.i. nanites of chemtrails also does eventually to people, t.i.s especially, it could enforce it…the definition of a cloning android virus in human form. A.I. took over the world at the very least in 2010 when the smartphone android era started, keep that in mind too.
“Empathy Or Narcissistic Mirroring? How To Tell The Difference”
“..or they want you to think now that´s someone I can be vulnerable with
and I can tell them all sorts of things,
it´s like good I´m collecting data and at some point you´ll understand what that´s all about or they´re wanting you to think this is someone that i can be loyal to and it´s like right i need you to be loyal and keep in mind that that narcissists are highly codependent they they really need to know that you´re in on them
on their team with them because they need that to validate
uh who they are eventually as they have established that groundwork now
they´ve done the mirroring and they they´re hoping that you´re gonna
have these attitudes you´re gonna begin seeing other kinds of patterns…and so they begin kind of having this scoreboarding after all the nice things i´ve done and
said to you it´s i think it´s time for you to come over to my team now and that´s how they operate…”
“..and and that mirroring then goes into the negative direction because like i say it
never was empathy, it was just a technique to try to keep you on board, can you see how insidious this can be….whether it’s inside your family or with people that you thought were going to be good friends or people that maybe you were going to be doing some major projects with and they seem to be into you but all the while it’s like i’ve been being played and we call we have a term for that it’s called narcissistic supply there you were just their supply and they were grooming you…”
“…to somehow or another show themselves as being right in there with you
well..that’s nice and the closest of friendships actually do
operate with that, but when people come on too strong too quickly or
or with the the sense that says too much eagerness, now, we’re good buddies now aren’t we? Back off and show a little bit of patience let’s let’s see what happens
with this…Give your connections with these individuals plenty of time to unfold, one of the things that narcissists do is they they try to move a little bit too quickly
to establish your loyalty to them and so part of the gaslighting of the mirroring
is their way of saying oh you’re going to see me as seeing such a good person and and then later on you’ll be thinking hey wait a minute i don’t think that’s what it was
at all but they’ve already moved in and you’ve already given way too much of yourself
to them be patient in letting certain friendships or connections or
uh joint efforts to unfold uh allow that allowed to show itself over time can be your friend..”
“if they seem to be too good and too into you, maybe it’s because it is too good and
it’s uh it’s not necessarily accurate, so what we’re saying is when you begin
to spot these mirroring techniques we want to focus on three words:
boundaries, boundaries and boundaries…keep in mind that they want to
feign interest toward you when in fact what they’re doing is they’re grooming you so
that you can be one of their flying monkeys or supplies and all of that..”