“Empathy Or Narcissistic Mirroring? How To Tell The Difference”
“..or they want you to think now that´s someone I can be vulnerable with
and I can tell them all sorts of things,
it´s like good I´m collecting data and at some point you´ll understand what that´s all about or they´re wanting you to think this is someone that i can be loyal to and it´s like right i need you to be loyal and keep in mind that that narcissists are highly codependent they they really need to know that you´re in on them
on their team with them because they need that to validate
uh who they are eventually as they have established that groundwork now
they´ve done the mirroring and they they´re hoping that you´re gonna
have these attitudes you´re gonna begin seeing other kinds of patterns…and so they begin kind of having this scoreboarding after all the nice things i´ve done and
said to you it´s i think it´s time for you to come over to my team now and that´s how they operate…”
“..and and that mirroring then goes into the negative direction because like i say it
never was empathy, it was just a technique to try to keep you on board, can you see how insidious this can be….whether it’s inside your family or with people that you thought were going to be good friends or people that maybe you were going to be doing some major projects with and they seem to be into you but all the while it’s like i’ve been being played and we call we have a term for that it’s called narcissistic supply there you were just their supply and they were grooming you…”
“…to somehow or another show themselves as being right in there with you
well..that’s nice and the closest of friendships actually do
operate with that, but when people come on too strong too quickly or
or with the the sense that says too much eagerness, now, we’re good buddies now aren’t we? Back off and show a little bit of patience let’s let’s see what happens
with this…Give your connections with these individuals plenty of time to unfold, one of the things that narcissists do is they they try to move a little bit too quickly
to establish your loyalty to them and so part of the gaslighting of the mirroring
is their way of saying oh you’re going to see me as seeing such a good person and and then later on you’ll be thinking hey wait a minute i don’t think that’s what it was
at all but they’ve already moved in and you’ve already given way too much of yourself
to them be patient in letting certain friendships or connections or
uh joint efforts to unfold uh allow that allowed to show itself over time can be your friend..”
“if they seem to be too good and too into you, maybe it’s because it is too good and
it’s uh it’s not necessarily accurate, so what we’re saying is when you begin
to spot these mirroring techniques we want to focus on three words:
boundaries, boundaries and boundaries…keep in mind that they want to
feign interest toward you when in fact what they’re doing is they’re grooming you so
that you can be one of their flying monkeys or supplies and all of that..”
